This is a new blog that I’m starting that will collect resources and information for transfeminine people, trans women, and amab non binary people!
I’m gonna be focusing on maintaining good quality resources and up-to-date information. I am a 23 year old transgender woman and I can answer questions about legal, medical, and social transition, and anything related to transgender girl/woman experiences.
I would love it if people would send any questions they have so i can answer them, send any resources & info you have so I can evaluate them and possibly add it to the blog if it’s good information.
Also, it would be nice if people would reblog this post so that this blog gets more exposure, which will increase the number of people who might be helped by the information I have collected thus far & the number of questions I can receive and answer.
Madhuri Sarode and Jay Sharma of Mumbai were the first [Mumbai] couple who had openly admitted that one of the partners was a transgender person, which fascinated 25-year-old Mumbai-based freelance photographer Anu Pattnaik.
Pattnaik decided to stay with them for a couple of days and observe their love firsthand.
“…how are trans women to be included in discourses of feminism and womanhood that-up until recently, it seems-have been constituted by cisgender women?
I’m not sure it’s a perfect explanation, but I have an idea.
Read this wonderful essay by Felix Conrad. He draws all transphobic arguments against trans people out into the open and proves to all how ridiculous they are.
Bethany Black is to become the first openly trans actor taking part in the very popular British TV show, Doctor Who.
Gay Star News reports that Bethany Black jokes that she now has to ‘sit back and wait for The Mail to realize they’ve cast a trans lesbian on a family show’.
It is not clear whether her character in the show will be transgender.
Pink News reports that Peter Capaldi and Jenna Coleman are both returning for the upcoming series as the Doctor and Clara –"while Michelle Gomez is set to return earlier in the run as iconic gender-flipped villain Missy.”
We need to stop seeing gender as what is between someone’s legs and
more of what energy or aura someone gives off, how that person feels.
Looking convincing as a woman for transwomen is only just the tip of the
iceberg in being who we truly are. Passports, driving licenses and
other forms of ID are a constant reminder that we are not recognised as a
female, or even a transperson, by law.
I worry, for example, about
being pulled over in my car because my insurance is under ‘Mr’. Going
through passport control means a level of stress that is impossible to
put into words.
I am speaking out as a transwoman because I don’t want people to be
misunderstood about who we are, and to hopefully create a safer place
for women like me to be just that: a woman. By speaking out, I hope to
give confidence to others to be who they truly are.
Some people’s need to hurt transgender people go beyond attacking the trans men and trans women themselves. One effective way of hurting them and isolating them is to go after the people who love them.
This especially applies to men who love trans women. Not only are the trans women defined as sexual deviants; the ones attracted to them are as well. I have even seen people in the LGBT community go after these men, questioning their sexuality and gender identity, using – in fact – the exact same arguments that have been used against both homosexual and transgender people for more than a century.
We, as a society, have not created a space for men to openly express their desire to be with trans women. Instead, we shame men who have this desire, from the boyfriends, cheaters and “chasers” to the “trade,” clients, and pornography admirers. We tell men to keep their attraction to trans women secret, to limit it to the internet, frame it as a passing fetish or transaction. In effect, we’re telling trans women that they are only deserving of secret interactions with men, further demeaning and stigmatizing trans women.
This is why I get really frustrated when people automatically presume that any person who is attracted to, or has sex with, a trans person must automatically have some kind of “fetish.” This is extremely invalidating, as it insinuates that we cannot be loved or appreciated as whole people, but rather only as a “fetish objects.”
Sure, there are some people who are specifically attracted to the fact that we are trans, and some of us might find that to be uncomfortable or annoying. But I have also experienced men (who were presumably unaware that I was trans) starring rather obsessively at my chest. But nobody ever seriously accuses such people of having a “breast fetish” or of being “breast chasers,” because breasts are seen as a perfectly normal and valid thing to be attracted to. Similarly, there are people out there who specifically date people because of their money or social status, but nobody ever accuses them of having a “fetish.”
People only use the term “fetish” when they believe the person in question is inherently undesirable - and I refuse to buy into that mindset!
Any LGBT person who uses the “fetish” argument to invalidate other trans and queer people is – in fact – using the language of his or her own oppressors.
