crossdreamers answered
Sex, gender identity and the feelings of animals
Thank you for a very entertaining question. I have decided to treat it seriously, as it can be used to kill some myths about sex and gender.
Here’s the main problem with the term “gender”. It is not referring to one phenomenon only, but many.
The reason for this ambiguity is that the language most people use today has been developed within a culture that requires you think of male and female as “natural” and mutually exclusive.
Here are the most important phenomena referred to as gender:
Biological sex: Biological sex refers to what is called “gametes”, as in sperm and egg. Gametes are real, so biological sex is real.
Still, the two sexes are not mutually exclusive. Nature throws a lot of dice that comes up intersex, with different chromosomes (as in XY women and XX men) and a wide variety of ambiguous genitalia.
Cultural gender: Throughout the ages various cultures have created an insane number of social rules as to how men and women should dress and behave. A Roman man would not be caught dead in trousers.
The current idea of pink being a girl’s color and blue being for boys is a 20th century has no foundation in nature. Previously red was a male color (associated with fire and blood) and blue was a female color (“calm serenity”).
Cultural gender is a social construct.
Gender identity: Gender identity refers to our gendered sense of self, i.e. to what extent we fundamentally experience ourselves as men, women or something else.
Cis people rarely reflect on this, since their assigned gender at birth fits their experienced gender. The very existence of transgender people tells us, however, that there is no one to one relationship between gender identity, assigned gender and/or biological sex.
This is why transphobes try to prove that trans folks do not exist. They spend a lot of time harassing “unreal” people. Weird, I know.
Gender expression: I have given up trying to find a fundamental and unambiguous definition of “masculine”, “feminine” or “androgynous”. Since cultural gender varies from culture to culture, and from epoch to epoch, these concepts have to be fluid and imprecise.
Still, it is an undeniable fact that people use clothes and interests and mannerisms to express themselves. It is also an fact that gender expression does not have to fit concepts of biological sex, cultural gender or gender identity.
Sexual orientation is clearly separate from all of the above. Yet, a lot of traditionalists insists that sexual orientation must follow the script of stereotypical cis man meeting stereotypical cis woman.
Lesbian “gender critical” TERFs seem to argue that their sexual attraction to other women is based on those women’s genitalia, which is blatantly absurd, as you might be attracted to someone without knowing what is between their legs.
Sexual orientation is a separate dimension that exists in parallel to those listed above.
So what about animals?
We have a female dog that likes to hump other female dogs when those dogs are in heat. So she is clearly some shade of queer.
She has a very sophisticated language (licking your ears as a sign of love), but this language is not well suited to discussions about cultural gender, gender identity or gender expression.
She is, in fact, not interested in abstract conceptualization of sex and gender at all, so she is not offended if we misgender her. She just hear the love in our voices and rejoice in that.
For humans this is obviously different, as we use words as sign of respect or disrespect. Misgendering a person is very often meant as an insult and therefore an act of violence. Don’t do that!
(This post is based on this article about the concept of gender.)
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